For much of the last decade, I have helped police officers, firefighters, first responders, healthcare professionals, and organizational leaders think clearly when emotions are running high, keep pressure from making decisions for them, and de-escalate conflict when everything inside them wants to react.

Then I realized I did not only teach those principles at work. I desperately needed them at home.

As a divorced father, I was not only trying to get it right for my young daughter. I was trying to get it right for the woman she would one day become—the woman who would understand what healthy masculine leadership, love, and steadiness were supposed to feel like.